The Unplugged Month: Notes From An Experiment
After a month away from all forms of social media- and the internet, generally- I’m finally crawling back into the game with a changed perspective and a better handle on time management. Prior to this hiatus, I was clocking approximately thirty hours a week composing blog entries, posting news items on Twitter, leaving messages on Facebook, chatting internationally over Skype, discussing events on LinkedIn and reading the news online. While there is an inherent satisfaction in being able to engage with a global community over the web, other important aspects of my life began to fall by the wayside. All the hours that I’d once spent creatively had been plugged into the web and inevitably, I found myself depleted by it. In short, the left side of my brain was beginning to overtake the right side and I didn’t entirely welcome the shift. So, while blogging brought me a tremendous amount of joy and social networks introduced me to some very compelling individuals, I felt it was time to shake things up.
After officially unplugging at the end of November, I cut down my time interacting online to about 1 hour a week, and most of that hour was spent answering emails that required a response. Initially, the void was felt, but that void was quickly filled with many other activities that I’d been neglecting. This post highlights what I did, what I learned, and how I’m going to apply these lessons moving forward. Additionally, based on insights gained during this hiatus, I’ve got a few notes for media companies and journalists struggling to stay afloat:
A Few Things I Did With My Time Offline
1. I read voraciously. I’ve always had a heart for fiction. Unfortunately, graduate school broke the spell, leading me to spend the past three years of my reading life collecting notes from books on economics, global business, transnational politics, and international security. Sure, it’s riveting stuff, but I really began to miss the art of storytelling. So, over the past month, I tore my way through a pile of novels that I’d once wanted to read a long time ago but didn’t: The Portrait of a Lady, U.S.A Trilogy, and In the Pond, to name a few. I also revisited one of my favorite fiction books of all time, If On a Winter’s Night a Traveler.
2. I picked up another book. Several years ago, I wrote a young and reckless book that quickly died. This was largely due to my own shortcomings- I wasn’t ready to tackle the subject matter and gave up on it after a handful of rejections from publishers. The experience turned me off from writing for a while (actually, it paralyzed me), but I began to revisit the prospect of writing longer works again. I started penning a narrative non-fiction book over a year ago, yet couldn’t seem to find the rhythm I needed to move forward. Well, the rhythm has returned and now I’m just enjoying the process.
3. I ran. Shortly before putting this blog on hold in November, I started taking fitness seriously again. I’ve always been one of those people that doesn’t operate well without a daily sweat, but the necessary discipline is difficult to maintain. So, I began running again. Hard. I set my alarm clock for 5:30am, signed up for NYRR membership and entered the lottery for the New York City marathon (fingers crossed). On Saturday, I finally hit ten consecutive miles at a 6.0MPH pace- progress. Painful. If you’re battling anxiety about your future (like me) or are dealing with a personal problem or bad habits or just want to raise your energy level, run! And, if you’re in New York, come running with me.
What I Learned From My Time Offline
1. The internet isn’t the best place for promoting diplomacy between the US and China. At least, it’s not the best place given current modes of usage. But, maybe that will change.
2. While artistry and invention can be shared online easily, it is better cultivated offline. Inspiration is the byproduct of experience.
3. For the most part, 140 character tweets and short blog posts don’t stick. Memory gravitates toward storytelling, not content. This may have been the most important lesson of all.
4. Horn tooting is not a good business model. Nor is inaccessibility. In fact, it’s dull. It’s talent compromised by ego. And yes, I tweeted this today.
5. Headline news very rarely changes, and it’s rarely positive or actionable. So, what value does it have, really? I learned that, while it’s certainly important to stay informed, it is even more important to uncover news stories that a) you can do something about or b) have a tangible impact. Check out Tonic News- good stuff.
6. Long-distance running is the perfect metaphor-in-action for anything else worthwhile in life.
Where I’m Going With This
1. Yes, I’m tweeting again and eventually I’ll blog again, but I’m going to be spending much less time with it than I used to. Additionally, I’d like every tweet and blog entry to have some larger value for whoever reads it- beyond content. A helpful tip or idea, a good resource, a news story that was buried but shouldn’t have been, or another person’s experience. I’d like them to have more sticking power.
2. The blog will change eventually. I haven’t been back to China in over a year now, and I don’t foresee going back for at least another six months. So, it seems less reasonable to write solely on China (though China will always be in the picture for me). I’d like to incorporate topics like development economics, corruption and transparency, art in politics, and sustainable business. I’d like to do more interviews. I’d like to hit the streets of New York a bit more. What do you think?
Finally, A Few Notes For Editors and Journalists
Disclaimer: I once worked on new media strategies for a global publishing/content company. And then I resigned. I’ve been marginally employed ever since, largely because I’m operating on long-range thinking and a calculated gamble. So, do with the following what you will:
1. Unplug. Find a week, or even a month to entirely unplug. Sounds impossible, right? It’s not. No Twitter, no blogs, no online research, no email. Step away from the computer. I am officially convinced that media professionals are so mired in finding the best possible solution to counterbalance the decline of print that they’re grabbing for any visible hope. Just look at the number of uninspired blogs started by editors and journalists (yes, there are a few good ones) or the technologies that publishing companies believe will save their hides. Another portable reading device, anyone? How about a digital magazine? What about paid subscriptions or advertising through tweets? Sigh. Unplug and get out into the world. Play. Think deeply. Come up with a unique product, solution or angle that does not yet exist. You can’t do this by searching for it online.
2. We’re in the middle of a “ME” crisis but the truth is, it’s not all about you. It’s about your audience, your readers. It’s about engagement. It’s about sharing and storytelling and bringing value to multidimensional conversations. If you’re going to launch a blog or a media company, make sure that self-importance is not a theme. And, make an attempt to remove the iron shield between you and your audience. If you’re looking to become a reality star or a talking head, then ego is great. Otherwise, tone it down. Gone are the days of The Bell Jar where you are the glory of Madison Ave.
3. Please don’t jump on the “next hot thing!” Sure, China’s smokin’ and everyone wants a piece of the action. But, that doesn’t mean that you should launch a media outlet focused on China (or anything else that might seem lucrative). Write what you know. And, if you don’t know about something but are curious to learn, ask others to share what they know. Attempting to trick your audience is never a bright idea.
4. Speak to memory. Commit to stories that have staying power. Don’t become another “content company.” We are buried in content already. Give us something that we will remember, that expands our own possibilities. Humanity can be injected into technology and if you do it properly, the revenue you need to survive will surface. Did you become an editor or a journalist (or any media professional) for the money? No, you likely came into it for the art and for the chase. What’s changed?
Thanks for reading. Now get offline for a bit!


Aimee-
Great post. You’ve had the freedom (or more accurately the courage) to do something that most of us never will. You got real. You reconnected with pieces of your values which got crowded out by the 24/7 online content stream. You are and you will be a better person for it.
And, no , I’m not going running with you.
Dear Aimee,
I so love what you put out here. I have to echo the importance of unplugging — if only for a little while — and cultivating a life beyond the computer. One of my favorite evening rituals includes soaking in a nice bath with a fine book in my hands. It helps me to step away from the computer and everything else, and just focus on some good reading.
Now I wish even more you and I could sit down for coffee, because we have yet one more thing in common.
Welcome back, Aimee. Good to hear that you found yourself to be more productive offline (I should do the same, though without the running). I’ve found that I enjoy having a job that doesn’t involve me around a computer–though I still need the computer at home to search for more lucrative employment.
If you’re interested, my wife and I are hoping to put together a trip to Xinjiang this summer and we’d like to have a group of friends and acquaintances with us.
I’ve been feeling the need to get offline more. It’s just so easy with an always on connection to be always on, and since I need to be online for work (most of my correspondence happens through email), getting offline for more than a day isn’t really feasible unless I’ve planned ahead for a vacation. Still, I could manage my online time better. Like you, I find I waste time that I would otherwise use reading, writing, crafting, or doing other things that are creative or bring me joy.
Thoughtful and courageous journey you’re on.
China is never dull and there’s always some aspect to tackle-now that I’ve been here 3 years, it means I still know nothing but want to write about that
Internet feels like lifeline here but hoping to meet IRL many of my Twitter friends this year
It’s interesting to read your post as I haven’t written anything substantial for about a year now and my twitter stream has become a list of links from my Google Reader but it does worry me a little that your time away from social media just led you to non-digital forms of media.
I was hoping to read a little about a road trip or an intimate face to face encounter with someone… perhaps it happened and wasn’t really something for this post. Fingers crossed.
I also have a comment about 140 characters and story telling. Unless you have offline celebrity, twitter is an insanely time consuming medium for story telling but it just means that your persona needs to be linked to a strong and compelling theme. Since the Sichuan Quake my twitter persona is split between a few random unrelated passions and as a result I am no longer able to tell a story because there is no thread between the tweets. It is lucky that you have a personal following and as your blog becomes less China focused people will continue to follow you because of who you are and the quality of your writing. For the less literate (like myself) as I devolve back into digital mediocrity with little direction and even less time to commit to creating that online story, I look forward to being a spectator in your story.
@Jeffrey J Davis
@Jeffrey J Davis
Jeffrey,
Thanks so much for your comment and continued reading! I was definitely fortunate (or unfortunate, depending on how you look at it) to have the freedom to unplug, which minimized any risk or fear factor. If you’re interested in trying this- even for a week- I suggest approaching it like a vacation. I attempted to let all of my regular contacts know that I’d be offline about two weeks in advance, kept the phone lines open, and set up an inbox alert.
Any hey, the running invitation’s open. Thanks again!
@Jocelyn
Hi Jocelyn,
Many thanks for your thoughtful comment; I’ve been enjoying your blog series on cross-cultural romance and look forward to reading more from you!
We definitely have a lot in common and I’m positive we’ll get to have that cup of coffee one of these days.
@Chinamatt
Hey Matt,
Thanks for the warm welcome back. Are you relying mainly on the internet for your job search? I hope it’s looking up for you and you’re making some progress on the career front. Xinjiang- sounds very tempting. I’m really hoping to get back to China this summer myself and will keep you posted on any travel plans there. Thanks again for your comment!
@Sara
Hi Sara, thanks for your comment. If you’re serious about taking the hiatus, let me know if you need any further tips. And, maybe you could start an “email free week” trend at work. Wishing you the best; chase the joy!
@betsy drager
That was definitely one of the reasons I decided to step away from the internet- to have the time to reassess and take a few long, deep breaths. Three years is quite a long time in China; I would love to read your insights and stories online- hope you take the plunge. Your curiosity will lead the way and hey, isn’t it much better to explore and admit to knowledge gaps than to assume the role of “expert”? The fun of it remains in searching for the insights, the answers, the tales. Thanks again, Betsy.
Betsy,
Thanks for your comment, continued reading and engaging tweets! I wish I viewed this overall journey as courageous- lately it seems more harrowing and anxiety-provoking than anything else.
Wow. You missed a BIG month in your kind of US-China stories, so the challenge must have been even tougher.
I’ve been using twitter & linkedin more and more — and I’m just starting to get a sense of how much time has to be invested. I don’t say ‘wasted’ because it can be quite productive — but one has to be aware of the cost in terms of time, energy and (mental) bandwidth.
Thanks for the eye-opening piece. I look forward to reading more about it. (To paraphrase Sideshow Bob — I’m aware of the irony of using the internet to decry it, so don’t bother pointing it out.)
Good to have you back.
-Andrew
Nowadays, unplugging is a planned activity and takes some serious courage and control. On the other hand, not unplugging completely from time to time cannot be good for our mental health. And like you said, trying to solve a problem while mired in the midst of it, is just not gonna get you anywhere.
You are spot-on. Too many folk don’t take enough time to think – and this includes thinking about their personal lives, let alone giving enough time to their families without a hand-held beeping every 2 minutes.
That said, “plugged” we are – this is today’s reality. Finding a way to manage this, rather than being managed by it is the key.
A new baby, slow VPN connections (I’m in China)and piles of junk mail semi-unplugged me some six months back.
And it gave me the mental space to think about life, my family’s needs, my own skill sets and career path.
A couple of years back, a writer tried “a year without China” – ie trying to live with nothing made over here for 12 months.
Can anyone imagine “a year unplugged” ?
I’m long enough in the tooth to remember sending documents by telex; my first mobile phone was like a building block and it weighed about 5 kg!
Up until the mid ’90’s, I had to file news stories, verbally, to a copywriter over the phone. I then remember marvelling over how a fax machine works. By the mid ’90’s, we had smaller, affordable mobile phones and even (costly) email accounts ! Anyone out there remember their compuserve address ? Boy, this was expensive – we had to pay for our internet connection by the minute !
We had a lot more peace and quiet back in the dark ages – could enjoy a long summer evening dinner without anyone checking up on us.
But tech has made so much in our lives so much easier – and more efficient. We are in danger, however, of letting the beast control the man…or woman !
ALL THE BEST, NICK